The verbal violence in family member inflicts serious injury of mental,emotion, and spirituality on all of injurer and sufferer. This is mental cruelty beginning to mainly parent’s nurturing attitude. In the verbal abuse Christians are no exception. The language violence has negative influence in faith life. The verbal violence brings spiritualty immature to family member. Our society must solve verbal abuse in family member. A Language violence is major cause that have divorce. The aftereffect of verbal abuse can be serious more than body violence. A Parents thinks easily that do language violence to children. The verbal abuse in domestic makes language violence person. The verbal violence is meaning to blame, blasphemy, intimidation, threat, terror, disgust, contempt, yell, and disregard. Researcher explained the intra individual theories, social psychological theories, social cultural theories, and math media theories as cause of language abuse. Researcher researched violence in couple,abuse in parents and sons & daughters, violence in brothers and sisters as type verbal abuse. Researcher argued about the loss of self-regard,emotional mistreatment, shame and inferiority, verbal abuse injurer, and spiritualty immature as result of language violence. Researcher discussed the intercessor prayer, Holy Spirit Comforter, read and write the Bible,and family worship service as the healing and recovery of verbal violence in family member.