This study examines the characteristics of familial changes and modernity embedded in the life history of the Korean and Japanese elders born between 1920s and 1940s. The elderly born between these periods experienced very rapid social change such as imperialism, political turmoil after liberation, ferocious nation building, wars, diaspora, and rapid economic development. Modern families have developed and transformed in such a vortex of social change. Surveys and interviews were conducted from 2009 to 2001 in Seoul, Korea, and Nagoya, Japan. Several important conceptual changes in the modern family were extracted from the life histories of the Korean and Japanese elders. A mixture of kinship care and modern institutional care, gendered education during childhood, relation with extended and conjugal families, ideas of gender role division, attitudes about inheritance, and family support during adulthood and later life were examined and compared.
The survey results combined with interviewees’ recalled memories of family relations highlight the eclectic formation of patriarchal and conjugal families. The ideas of gender role division, attitudes toward child rearing,old age support, and family succession had changed through the course oftheir lives. Nevertheless, patriarchal and conjugal family relations had been enacted and has led to the formation of an overarching ideology of family centeredness within the distinct relations and conflicts between gender and generations, between the authoritarian regime and the resistance of the citizens, and in the collective anxiety about economic developments.
This study also emphasized that the eclectic formation of patriarchal and conjugal families has been an important mechanism of de-familial phenomenon in present Japan and Korea. Despite romantic notions about family life and persistent patriarchal influence in social relations and institutions, strict definition of family roles, the increasing gap between expectations about family and real conditions, and the exacerbating conflicts in gender identities suggest that the dominance of the eclectic extension of patriarchal and conjugal families have come to an end.